You're not dumb because you were cheated on.
“my wife cheated”
Ego pulls that crap from time to time
I’m so grateful that I can breathe. I feel I can handle all needs financially, health wise, mentally, spiritually, and more. I lean on the fact that these things are mine and I’m grateful for them. Healing is about opening up, like the quote about pain being where the light comes in. To heal we … Continue reading Ego pulls that crap from time to time
Unless I Have Already Saved Myself
Today I want to remind anyone who has or is going through a painful time. You are loved, you are not alone, and healing happens. Each of us suffers. We all have something that hurts our soul, messes with our mind, and threatens to change our core if we let it. The choice is ours. … Continue reading Unless I Have Already Saved Myself
You Can’t Prove It
It might seem strange that I tried to call them before knowing who was having an affair with him. I wanted to figure it out. You see, the "first" affair which I put in quotes here to let you know that I understand that this occurrence could just be the "first" I knew of in … Continue reading You Can’t Prove It
Forwarded the email
Some of you will recognize the error of some of my actions and choices way before I finish the story, but what did I do after I saw the strange email in my work inbox that morning? I called my husband and told him about it. I also responded. The man emailed me back very … Continue reading Forwarded the email
There’s a lot of work involved
I'm going to keep it short because boy I could (and likely am already) rambling about this. I want to say. It's a lot of f'ing work to heal yourself, but it's worth it. It's worth learning who you are, what makes you happy (please note that I said what not who), how you want to live your life, what things are important to you? Keeping your mind open to answering these things can lead to interesting discoveries and new beginnings. Perhaps you will stay, perhaps you won't, but in the end you better make damn sure you are better for it anyway and I know you can.
Sometimes it does feel like PTSD
Finding out your spouse has had an affair or is having an affair can throw you into PTSD. It's NORMAL to feel crazy. It's ok not to know. Allow yourself to be unsure if that's what you need to be.
I should have known
Growth. Spirit. It’s easy to forget that it takes work to grow. The tree has to reach underground to grow tall, just like we have to reach inside to allow ourselves to change. Be like water I used to tell myself. Adjust to the new things in life and be like water. Strong, able to carve valleys. Things will work out better than I can even imagine I would tell myself. In many ways they have, even though I should have known.
Ever heard of Imago?
What I like is that no matter what is happening in your marriage, if you can truly get to the patterns and understand what you are triggered by, this will help you grow as a person.
Navigating Infidelity: What You Should Know
Affairs, some want them, some have had them and some are hurt by them. This page discusses a short description of each.